Archives for July 2011

Summer Blog Social – So You Think You Can Blog

The #SummerBlogSocial is here! I’m excited about this (hence the double post today – lucky you!) because there are lots of great people participating and I know I’ll learn some stuff that will help me with my next steps.

In the meantime, I’m going to share some of the bits and pieces I know now and hopefully connect with others for feedback.

Here goes.

If a real life friend approached you and said, “I want to start a blog. Can you give me a list of helpful tips?“, what 10 (or more) things would you tell your friend?

This is timely because a real-life friend did ask me for some tips. Based on what I’ve learned, here’s what I’d suggest. (T – I’ll still go for coffee with you!)

  1. Have an idea of what you want your blog to be about. You don’t have to have a niche or squish yourself into a category, but it helps to know what your general focus might be. Who do you picture your readers being?
  2. Go into it knowing that the so-called blogosphere is huge. HUGE. There are a kajillion people who have blogs and yours (probably) isn’t going to revolutionize the world.
  3. Taking those two things into account, what are your goals for your blog? Are you just writing for yourself or your family? Are you doing it to connect with others? Do you want to use it to promote your business? Do you want it to BE your business? Your goals will probably change over time. Mine certainly have, and you may not know where you want it to go until you start doing it. But at least have a sense of what you’re trying to do.
  4. Once you know what you’re trying to do, connect with other people. Even if you just want your parents to get updates about your kids, you may have to remind them to read your blog. If you want to have a bigger reach, you have to get out there. You just have to. “Build it and they will come” does not apply to blogging.
  5. Join Twitter. No, scratch that. Get active on Twitter. Seriously. Ask any blogger – this one is like passing go in Monopoly. If you don’t use Twitter, you’ll be stuck on the blogosphere’s version of Baltic Avenue.
  6. Be genuine. You don’t have to spill all your personal stuff (ahem) but you should be yourself.
  7. That said, don’t let who you are, i.e. all your insecurities, hold you back. We all have them. We all think, at some point, that we’re not good enough writers or photographers or whatever. That we’re not interesting enough. That our topic is too narrow. (Or is that just me?)
  8. Use WordPress. I did because I just liked it better, but it seems to be the platform of choice for a lot of people. It’s easy to use, even if you’re not tech savvy, but if you want to get more complicated it offers a lot of options. Plus, for some reason, I think it just looks better than Blogger.
  9. If you think you’re the sort of person who’s really going to dive into blogging, consider setting yours up on your own domain to start with (as opposed to yourblog.wordpress.com for example). I didn’t do that, and it’s kind of a pain to transfer everything over a few weeks (or months) later.
  10. Have fun! And warn your family – blogging is addictive and they may not see you for a while.*

Confession: I knew none of this when I started, but it didn’t actually matter. If you don’t know the answers to some of these it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still start.

*P.S. Dear Husband, I still love you more than I love my blog.

Hello, Inspiration – You Will Survive

I’ve been looking back at some of my posts recently and thinking, “Did I really write all that personal stuff for the whole world to see?”

Yes, I did.

I’ll admit some of my older posts make me cringe. There’s something so vulnerable about them, and that’s not a feeling I’m especially comfortable with. But I was aware of that in the moment and each and every time I hit ‘publish’ knowing I was putting my rawness out there. And I haven’t taken down a single post.

My experience is what it is and those were my feelings at the time. Writing about it here is how I chose to express it, and as time went on I continued for a reason beyond using it as my own cheap therapy.

On an increasingly frequent basis I’ve had people contact me – usually by email or Twitter DM – to share their own experiences. Some of them ask for help, in which case I refer them to the PPD resources I know and trust. Some of them need someone to listen. And others just want to say thank you.

That was particularly the case after I posted about my experience with postpartum rage. In the short time since, I’ve had so many people contact me to say, “me too.”

Late last week I got an email from someone who was dealing with something similar who said, “…just had to stop by and say thank you for giving me one of those ‘oh thank god, I can survive this’ moments, and lending me some faith that maybe I can repair what’s been sent asunder.”

The thing I hate about emails like that is that I just want to hug each person (yep, I’m a hugger) and tell her it will be okay. Because it will.

But all I can do is offer virtual hugs and keep talking about my experience.

So that’s what I’m doing.

You will survive.

Don't worry about me.

Life’s Lessons: A To-Do About Lists

I would say TGIF but it actually doesn’t make a huge amount of difference to me these days what day it is. Still, I’m sort of glad it’s Friday, because I’ve learned some stuff.

  1. My to-do list might have been ambitious this week.
  2. That might be the reason you’ve had to suffer through so many not-really-a-post posts this week. And jokes about gorilla nostrils.
  3. Sorry about that.
  4. There are good reasons though!
  5. I am now off my anti-anxiety med. (Ha! Take that, mean psychiatrist. I can so do it.)
  6. That process has involved some side effects though. Things I’m not fond of.
  7. Like headaches. Right behind the eyes. Pretty much all the time.
  8. And sweats. For three nights in a row I woke up in what can only be described as a slip ‘n’ slide. (That might be TMI. Too late…)
  9. Remind me not to use body butter the next time I’m trying to get off medication.
  10. The nights are fine now but I’m hot ALL THE TIME.
  11. I don’t like being hot.
  12. I don’t like being jittery either.
  13. But I don’t care (as long as I don’t stay this way forever) because I’m not sedated all the time anymore. Whee!
  14. Another good reason is that I’ve been working on some stuff for Band Back Together.
  15. And I’m also a contributor to something that will be making its big debut very soon. Very, very excited about this one.
  16. Plus I still have a kid and, whaddya know, I kind of like spending time with him (and the husband) when I’m not feeling crazy.
  17. So yeah, I had to let something go and I chose this dear blog of mine this week. Because I’m selfless like that.
  18. Speaking of selfless, I may have spent some time reminding people to vote for me for this. So, um, please vote for me. Until August 3rd.

So that’s why I haven’t been doing my normal writing here, though I do have a couple of posts in my head that I want to write. Maybe this weekend. Then next week I’m going to BlogHer ’11 (wahoo!) and planning to participate in the #SummerBlogSocial.

How am I going to manage when I go back to work?! (Oh…my boss reads this blog. Just kidding, RB!)

Happy weekend, all.

The T-shirt Winner Is…

The lucky winner of the Band Back Together t-shirt, chosen by random.org, is comment #23 from Roxanne!

Roxanne gets her choice of t-shirt to show that she’s With The Band.

If you haven’t visited Band Back Together lately, we’ve got a super easy way for you to support those sharing their stories. You don’t have to comment – just fling some glitter at them. So go on – click. Give out some glitter and get some good karma in return.

And thanks to all those who entered and retweeted and all that good stuff. The Band appreciates your support.

Making It Happen – I’m a Speaker Finalist For Bloggy Boot Camp!

Last week I tortured myself making a video for something I really want. It paid off! I’m a finalist for a speaker spot at a SITS Bloggy Boot Camp.

I’m DYING of excitement. (You can see my video submission below.)

I really want to do this – not so much to talk about postpartum depression (though that would obviously be part of my story) but to talk to other bloggers about how blogging, to me, is so much more than words on a page. It’s about sharing what is unique to you – whatever that is, and each one of us has something – and using that to give others something. A laugh. Support. A new idea. A bit of hope. A connection to someone they’d otherwise not have met. And how doing that makes their life, and yours in return, something more.

I know I’d be a good speaker (and I promise not to tell the gorilla joke). Help me get there? Visit the site and vote for me (which you can do once per day – please, please – until Aug. 3).

Did I mention I will love you forever if you do?