Archives for August 2011

On the Move: Being a Theta Mom

Yes, I’m elsewhere again today, trying on a different hat. Yesterday I was scary, which was really fun, and I appreciate all the kudos for writing honestly about how hard it is to have a newborn.

If you’ve been around here before, you’ll know I’m all about telling it like it is.

If you’re new here, well, I’ll just send you right to the really hard stuff as an example of just how honest I’m willing to be. (And also, hi! Welcome.)

Yes, being a mom is great. But sometimes it also sucks. I figure we should be able to talk about that.

Heather created her site to be about the real deal when it comes to talking about motherhood, and my reaction when I first found her was, “Sign me up!”

Today I’m really happy to be guest posting over there about – what else? – blogging and the benefits of brutal honesty.

Come and visit!

On the Move: Being a Scary Mommy

There are a number of things about me that are scary. Like my inability to deal with heat. And my sense of humour. And my weird facial expressions.

Today I’m taking my scary self over to Jill’s place for a Scary Mommy guest post. It includes a shot of whiskey, so come and visit!

 

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Quick note about something that is not scary: my new design. Huge, huge thank you to Kate from Mommy Monologues for doing it for me. She’s a star, and an absolute sweetheart to work with. 

Outtakes From a Photo Shoot

A few weeks ago I got my husband to take some pictures of me with my new haircut so I could update my profile photo. We went out into the brilliant sunshine in our backyard – a perfect setting to take some shots.

Except for the toddler in the background.

Connor was having a beastly-behaviour sort of day and… Well, I think the outtakes really say it all.

WHAT are you doing?!

 

I'll keep an eye on him... Look, I can watch him out of the corner of my eye and still face the camera.

 

No, I can't watch. I'll just close my eyes and pretend he's not doing that.

 

That photo seemed fine! Right? Good enough.

 

Can I throttle him now?

 

Next time I think I’ll just go to the photo booth in the mall. Alone.

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If you’re reading this in a reader or an email, come and visit me on the site to see my new design (yay!). 

 

Also linking up with:

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Let the Light In

I am so happy to welcome Leighann (aka Multitasking Mumma) to my blog today. I asked her if she would guest post for me, and she sent me this beautiful post. I wish I had written it myself.

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Warm, welcoming sun sent dust dancing in its rays each morning and from my spot on the couch I yearned to dance with it.

But I couldn’t let the light in.

The pull of sadness, loneliness, and depression kept me in the shadows.

Sultry breezes called to me from the darkness, pulling at my arms and wrapping around my face.

But I couldn’t let the light in.

I was trapped inside the darkness, struggling to find the light I could see, the warmth I could feel, the freedom I remembered.

But I couldn’t let the light in.

I was weak; exhaustion and the fear of admitting failure held me hostage.

I ached to let the light in.

If I reached out my arm and allowed the kindness, love, and understanding from friends and family wash over me what might happen?

If I admitted that I needed help, that I couldn’t do this alone, that I am not perfect, then what?

If I opened my arms and let the light in, accepting my struggle, my challenges, and my climb would it get harder?

Yes.

But it will get better.

If you let the light in.

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Thank you so much, Leighann. You are one of the bright lights in my life. xo

Blue Hair & Other Things: Life List Update

My life list has been on my mind a lot lately. And, weirdly, not crossing my mind at all at other times when it would be logical for it to do so.

Conferences and Flash Mobs

I wrote that list in January, the same month I started blogging. I realized the potential here after very quickly meeting some totally inspiring women. So I put “attend a bloggers’ conference for strong women” on the list (#4). I figured it would be a while before I actually did it, but funny things happen when you put something on your life list. BlogHer was always there, in the back of my mind. I’d like to go one year, I thought. And that became “I’d like to go this year,” which then evolved into “I think I have to go. I’m going to go.” So I did.

It was awesome.

Group at Sparklecorn at BlogHer '11

Clockwise: @canbeafunnygirl, @galitbreen, @mamatrack, me, @mytimeasmom, @madwomandiary

(Yes, that’s a glow stick on my head.) (Yes, I stole the picture from Lizz.)

Cristi and I at BlogHer '11

With my beautiful friend Cristi (@MotherUnadorned)

BlogHer also led to the addition of #57 on my list: participate in a flash mob. Here’s why:

Ooh, still gives me goosebumps. I want to do that one day.

Short hair

In the second photo above you can also see my new short hair, the result of #14 on my life list. Cutting my hair really short is something I’ve wanted to do for years but was always too chicken. Then a few weeks ago I went to get my hair cut and as I sat in the chair discussing options, I knew it was time. She took a chunk of my hair, cut several inches off the back, and inside I did a little happy dance. I love it! Should have done this years ago.

Blue hair

Speaking of hair, #54 on my list is to get a colourful streak put in my hair. This is just a whimsical wish and I almost did it while I was on leave from work, figuring I’d likely never do it at another time. Then last week my friend Cristi (from the photo above) committed to dyeing her hair blue if she raises an additional $1000 for suicide prevention by Sept. 9 (for a total of $1,500). See?

CristiBlueHair

When she said if she doesn’t make it to her goal she’ll do blue streaks instead, I figured, hey, I can get on board with that. I wasn’t even thinking of my life list, just that it would be fun and in support of a good cause. Then Lizz got in on the conversation and she agreed to some blue as well. It was after that discussion that I remembered my life list, so this is perfect – blue streaks + fundraiser = checking off an item on my life list and having a good reason for it.

All together, Cristi has four of us on board now – Tara is going for streaks too, and Brian Perry, a singer/songwriter from New Orleans, is going full blue (but he doesn’t have a lot of hair…). Anyone else want in? If you’re not up for blue hair (or even if you are) I’d love it if you’d donate to Cristi. You can do that on her American Society for Suicide Prevention fundraising page or through PayPal on her site. Every dollar helps!

Other Things

I’ve been making progress on a few other items from my list:

#5: Speak at a blog conference. I haven’t done it yet, but in case you missed it, I got asked to speak at a Bloggy Boot Camp in 2012! I’m really looking forward to that. SITS Girls have also opened up pre-sale registration so you can guarantee your spot. (Not sure which location I’ll be at – I get to choose, but it will probably depend on timing. Any input? Out of the four choices I’ve only been to Vegas.)

#6: Attend a TED talk. This is similar but different, and I’m possibly even more excited about this one. I’ve been invited to speak at TEDx MileZero! SO excited. (Did I mention I’m excited?) Better get my presentation done. (I just got informed of my selection last week, so time is short. Very short, as you can see from the countdown clock on the site, which, as of today, reads 18 DAYS until the event. Eep!)

#55: Give blood 5 more times. This is a relatively easy one, if you discount my fear of needles. I donated on July 5th – my 3rd time – and the experiences are getting progressively better each time. The first time I donated one of the nurses evidently thought I looked a little pale and started pouring juice down my throat, which kind of freaked me out because, you know, I had a big needle in my arm. Even with that experience I’m much less nervous now. My sole remaining complaint is that the only spot that seems to work for giving blood – whether donating or having a blood test – is inside my left elbow. And each time I do it I get a big bruise and a permanent hole in my arm. Pretty soon they’re not going to let me donate because I’m going to look like a heroin addict.

#58 & #59 – I have also added two more items to my list. Get a tattoo to commemorate beating PPD (WOOT!) and help someone else with their life list (inspired by the story behind this).

And that’s it. Life is good.