Grace in Small Things: #2

I’m a bit stuck for words right now for some reason. Too much thinking in my head and not enough thinking with my fingers.

In the absence of being able to give you big thoughts, I will give you small ones. Things I appreciate when I take time to notice them. Last week’s reflections were helpful.

  1. A dog who likes to visit me in bed (even if he farts).
  2. Fruit salad at the start of summer.
  3. Some new clothes when one is busting out of the old ones.
  4. Seeing the new baby.
  5. Moments in which I appreciate that my first baby is still pretty little, even if he won’t be that way for long.

toddler asleep in car seat

What have you noticed lately?

Waging a battle against embitterment and taking part in Grace in Small Things.

Motherhood and Toothpaste

Motherhood.

What some people would have you believe:

in-the-bath

The reality:

toothpaste-shower-curtain

 

Linked up with Memories Captured.

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What is your label | Just.Be.Enough.

It’s time to look past the obvious.

We’re inviting posts from voices everywhere to share your labels and who you are beyond that. The focus is whatever you need it to be – from our lives as moms, dads, parents, spouses, professionals, survivors, athletes and more. We invite you to join us, to celebrate our strengths, to celebrate our diversity, to celebrate our voices and change the conversation.

Join us on Just.Be.Enough next Monday for the very special link-up. We can’t wait to take the conversation by storm with our voices.

Mom, we need to have a talk

I got a talking-to the other day.

Connor was picking up the cards from his memory game when we heard a noise from the kitchen where my husband was making dinner. A barking spider, or at least that’s what it sounded like.

I was playing around on the computer at the time and mindlessly remarked, “Uh oh.” (An appropriate response when someone farts, I’d argue.)

Connor got very serious. He came over and told me we needed to have a talk as soon as he was finished picking up his cards. I knew I was in for it.

When he was done, he came right over.

“Mom,” he said as he sat down and gave a big sigh.

“Yes?” I answered, looking quite as serious as the occasion warranted.

“When Daddy farts, don’t say ‘uh oh.’ That’s not what you’re supposed to say.”

“What am I supposed to say?”

“You’re supposed to say, ‘Say “excuse me.”‘ Because if you say ‘uh oh’ that’s not what you’re supposed to say.”

I glanced over and saw my husband eavesdropping. Right at that moment he turned away to hide his laughter. I remained composed, listening attentively to my son’s earnest correction.

“You’re right,” I said. “I’m so glad we had this talk.”

He gave me one last serious look and walked away.

What do you know? Apparently he does sometimes listen after all.

Words of Winter

I did ask for it, so I can’t complain. We were waiting for winter, and winter is here.

It got cold on Sunday (-18 degrees C which is 0 degrees F, or slightly lower I think) but we braved the elements. Connor has a new sled and it’s a hit. Thursday and Friday’s outings, by all reports, were great. Cold in a refreshing way but not cheek-bitingly cold.

Sunday was cheek-bitingly cold.*

We went out anyway. Got bundled up—which, for a kid who generally opts to be naked, is quite a feat—and trekked to the park.

He pulled the sled on the way there.

And his excitement was written all over his face.

toddler with sled

And that’s a memory worth capturing.

*(Although, at -30C/-22F the last couple of days have been worse. Whose ideas was this again?)

 

And speaking of new things, I’m on Just.Be.Enough today talking about my new views.

Toddler is My Co-Pilot

Having an extremely observant 3-year-old is not necessarily always a good thing.

I had promised Connor an adventure yesterday, so we hopped in the car and headed to a park nearby where, if you’re lucky, you can see porcupines. Big ones. The problem was I wasn’t sure exactly how to get there.

Connor noticed, and the conversation went something like this:

“Mommy, why are we turning around?”

“Because I turned the wrong way. The park is in the other direction.”

He’s quiet for a moment, then comes out with this:

“Mommy, we shouldn’t drive without Daddy because he knows the way.”

Oh ye of little faith.

We drive a little longer.

“Hmm,” I muse aloud.

“What?” he asks.

I’m starting to regret telling him he should admire the view instead of having a book on my iPhone.

“Mommy’s just not that good at finding the way in new places.”

“Do you have a map?”

“Yes, I have one on my phone.”

“Well let’s use it.”

As if it were the most logical suggestion in the world. Which it is. 

Stubbornly, I drive a few more blocks.

“C’mon, let’s use the map,” he says again.

Fine. 

“I’ll keep an eye on Finley,” Connor says, as though we’re going to get stranded and the dog in the back is going to need comforting.

Meanwhile I get the map to tell us how to get there—I was close, ha ha, as long as you ignore the fact that I’m going in circles—and we continue on, much to Connor’s relief (and the dog’s too, I’m sure).

I really, really hope he gets his dad’s sense of direction.

 

PS We did get there.  

park-city-skyline